This is my Insecure Writers Support Group post for November 2025.
Alex's awesome co-hosts this month are:
Lynn Bradshaw, & Me!
Please stop by their blogs and say thank you.
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Before I dive into my IWSG post, I want to link a post I made a few days ago, in case you missed it. It's an update on reformatting book 1 and the effect it had on series read-through. #datajunkienirvana
November 5 question - When you began writing, what did you imagine your life as a writer would be like? Were you right, or has this experience presented you with some surprises along the way?
I love this question! I look forward to blog-hopping around and reading other people's answers.
As a kid, I jotted a few short stories for fun. Then I set writing aside for decades.
Flash forward to my 40's. A popular series got me hooked, and I became a voracious reader. That made me decide I would try my hand at writing a full-length novel - just to see if I could do it. I'm not kidding. I had no aspirations for publication at that time. I only wanted to challenge myself, to see if I could handle a plot and a document that big.
My mom is friends with a published author and asked her if she'd critique my work and give me some advice. She agreed and asked me to send her the first 2,000 words. (Um... Okay, but the story doesn't really get going good until around page 27. 😄) She warned me she was brutal when she put her critique hat on, and she was. "Your opening isn't compelling enough...you don't understand POV...you need to show, not tell..." and the list went on.
By that time, I was mature enough to graciously accept the criticism and invested enough in the story to polish it and see where it might take me; so I studied fiction writing, hooked up with some critique partners, and began considering publication, though I didn't know if I'd go traditional or indie.
I ended up writing a sequel to that first WIP then a third novel of a different genre titled Come Back, which became my debut. By then, I'd heard horror stories from traditionally published authors and knew I was too much of a control freak to do anything but self-publish.
(Cover by Carrie Butler)
As you can imagine, I was incredibly glad I decided to go indie.
My debut branded me as a western historical romance author, something I truly didn't anticipate and still laugh about to this day. Come Back was written as a standalone, but due to fans contacting me and asking me if favorite supporting characters were going to get their own books, it became a series.
I work hard, but I'm also very blessed. Though none of the other books achieved the same level of sales, Come Back still sells well, and the series earnings keep my writing business afloat.
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IWSG is the brainchild of Alex J. Cavanaugh. It's a monthly bloghop that offers a safe haven for writers to express their feelings and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. It's also a venue for offering support, both in the form of comments and positive posts. Writers of all kinds are welcome.
We 'meet' the first Wednesday of every month. If you're interested in learning more, click on the link above. And don't be intimidated by the size of the group. We're not expected to visit everyone on the list.


That is a lot of copies in the first six months - well done!
ReplyDeleteThanks for co-hosting.
I've never had a problem with constructive criticism because it helps you to improve. But there are a lot of people out there who just want to hurt you with their criticism. I still don't let it get to me (too much), but I've known people who were really hurt by it. I always respond with a "thank you" because if they were just trying to be mean and spiteful, it throws them off.
ReplyDeleteI love my readers, though. I always ask for feedback when I write something new, and they give it. Quite thoroughly, I might add.
You might not have planned that genre but you own it now!
ReplyDeleteIt's great that you sold 8,000 copies in six months. Thanks for being a co-host this month.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a great success, Melissa! Huge congrats to you. https://cleemckenziebooks.substack.com/p/the-gift-of-kittens
ReplyDeleteWow! Congrats on 8,000 copies. I find it interesting that it was actually your first book. My husband is convinced that my first book is my best story, even though I made a lot of newbie mistakes in the actually writing. You've inspired me! I really need to go back and fix all those things.
ReplyDeleteIt's such a fast-changing industry. Timing is everything. @samanthabwriter from
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That's the truth!
DeleteYour writing journey is a story of triumph. An inspiration for all of us.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the 8000, that really good. It's too bad they keep changing their algorisms.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your inspiring journey, Melissa, and for co-hosting today!
ReplyDeleteThanks for co-hosting this month. Thank you for sharing your writer story. I like hearing stories like this. That's so awesome you sold so many copies in your first weeks. Glad you kept with it too. As a reader, I know what it's like to want more from a story, but not all authors stick with a series. Nicely done.
ReplyDeleteI also loved this month's question. How exciting to sell so many books, especially for your debut novel! I'm curious what series hooked you. The TV show Prison Break started me on my writing adventure.
ReplyDeleteI'm a little ashamed to say. Twilight.
DeleteNothing to be ashamed of! Stephenie Meyer will never win a Nobel Prize for literature, but the Twilight series did a lot right in order to hook so many people (including me, and I was way older than the target demographic). The main thing she did is to make readers care about (IMHO) deeply flawed yet well-meaning characters. There's actually some meat in those books, for all the flak they get: bodily autonomy and autonomy vs. safety come to mind.
DeleteBravo, Melissa! You found your market audience and they love you and keep you going. Way to go! Thank you for cohosting this month.
ReplyDeleteI also wrote my first novel just to see if I could do it. I think that--and studying the craft and getting feedback, as you did--is the best way to learn.
ReplyDeleteAn admirable story - thanks for sharing your talents, time, and energy as a writer and co-host.
ReplyDeleteIt is exciting and wonderful to learn of your success! Clearly, you learned how to inspire the imagination of your readers and keep them engaged. Hard work pays off!
ReplyDeleteThanks for co-hosting
Congratulations on your achievements so far. I've been writing since childhood as well and have continued to do so throughout my life. But I guess my writing has been more of a hobby and a dream than some actual career pursuit or achievement. I should probably get busy.
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8000! That would be a grand surprise. Congratulations on continuing success in your genre. Thanks for co-hosting!
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